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A RANGE OF OPINIONS ON KIDS AND SOCIAL MEDIA
A big sub topic in the world of parenting is getting parents engaged in supervising and managing their kids access to social media apps and devices. It has become incredibly political with opposing points of view. Some feel that this is the digital age and we should be integrating our kids to have daily, regular access to digital devices and social media communication means. The other side of the argument is where I fall, that parents should refrain (not forbid) from allowing their children and teens to have easy access to much of it (not all). I know some of you reading this will either agree with me or disagree. I travel nationally and lecture to psychologists and therapists on the topic of HANDLING DISRUPTIVE AND RESISTANT KIDS AND TEENS, and in many of my sessions when I begin to talk about the “refraining” position, I have actually had some participants get up and walk about because of their strong support of giving kids digital and social media access. They feel that our kids today are “digital babies” and need to learn to live with the technology and communication means.
MY STRONG STANCE ON THE ISSUE
My reasoning for standing hard on the “refrain from giving to them” side is because many parents are just handing the hand-held devices over to them or just allowing them on computers unsupervised. We have more and more grandparents with little or now social media “footprint” or experience (no smart phones, no email addresses, no online experience, etc.) raising their grand kids. Many others claim to be keeping their kids safe by watching over them, but I’ve found that the “watching” eventually fades. When they first see their kids behaving well, they then ease up on the controls quickly, all while their children and young teens become more curious and interested over time in the forbidden topics. Then there is the much smaller group of parents (like my wife and myself) who remain engaged constantly throughout the child’s life, never being fooled by the “halo effect” that their child can do no wrong, and stopping the over sight, but providing the child more and more freedom gradually. When I say “do no wrong” I am not implying that kids and teens have evil intentions, what I mean is this; they normally have good intentions but become influenced by peer pressure to experiment and explore, and their own curiosity and sexual interest. It is my belief that children under the age of 13 should not have access devices that put them on the Internet or give them social media capabilities, at all or at least not without strong supervision. Children from 13 – 16 can be integrated with these devices with strong supervision or monitoring.
I’d be interested in hearing your position on this topic.
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